Facing the Shadow: Why Exploring Our Darkness Sets Us Free

We all have a shadow side.

It’s not something to be ashamed of—it’s simply part of being human.

Our shadow isn’t evil or wrong; it’s the part of us that holds the pain we’ve buried, the beliefs we’ve inherited, and the aspects of ourselves we’ve been taught to reject.

When we refuse to face it, it doesn’t disappear—it just grows louder in the background of our lives.

For many of us, the shadow was formed in childhood.

Moments where we were told to “be quiet,” “don’t cry,” or “act nice” taught us that certain emotions were unwelcome.

So we pushed them down.

But those emotions—anger, grief, jealousy, fear—don’t go away.

They live in the shadow.

The shadow can show up in many ways:–

Feeling triggered by someone else’s success

Repeating relationship patterns

Self-sabotaging just as things are going well

Saying “yes” when your soul is crying out for “no”

Sound familiar?

As a medium, I’ve come to understand that healing isn’t just about talking to the spirit world—it’s also about making peace with our own inner world.

The spirit world often reminds me that we’re here not just to connect, but to evolve.

Real evolution means looking at what we’ve been avoiding.

Shadow work is powerful because it brings light to the unseen.

When we bravely explore our shadow, we unlock truth, reclaim lost parts of ourselves, and heal not only our wounds but also the generational patterns we carry.

This isn’t about digging into pain for the sake of it. It’s about meeting ourselves with compassion and choosing to rewrite the story.

We don’t become “bad” for having a shadow—we become more whole when we acknowledge it.

Here are a few questions to reflect on:

• What triggers you, and why?

• What parts of yourself do you hide from others?

• Where in your life are you playing small out of fear?

  
  

You are not broken. You are beautifully layered. The shadow is not here to destroy you—it’s here to reveal your strength.

Ready to explore your shadow side?

I’ve created a brand-new course on my website called “Embracing the Shadow: A Journey Into the Hidden Self” 

It’s a self-paced digital workshop filled with reflections, exercises, journaling prompts, and a guided shadow healing meditation.

This is deep soul work—but you won’t be alone.

Let’s walk this path together.

✨ Visit www.tjhiggs.com to explore the course and begin your shadow healing journey today.

With love,

TJ Higgs